Why Can't I Find The Love I Deserve?

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Heartbreak Podcast - Why Can't I Find The Love I Deserve?

This episode was inspired by a conversation with a new client who, on her consultation, asked the rhetorical question, “Why can’t I find the love that I deserve?” This is something I have heard other clients and women ask themselves, and in this episode, I really get into what it is at the heart of this question we are asking ourselves, and I reveal that this question doesn’t actually serve you or the results you desire. It starts with getting real with what your brain is saying, doing the work, and not letting yourself off the hook. 

This is also the exact kind of thing I help clients with. Working with a coach can be very powerful because they can see your blind spots and they can show you where it is you should be showing up for yourself. If you are looking for a coach and you think we may be a great fit, you can apply for my one-on-one coaching at https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/work-with-me 

Topics in this episode

• The intentional thought model

• The two thoughts behind “Why can’t I find the love I deserve?”

  • I can’t find love

  • I deserve a certain type of love

• The real issue is that you haven’t been giving yourself that love that you feel you deserve

• Learn to date yourself

• How to rephrase: “I deserve this” in a way that serves us 

• What would the heroine in your story do?

• Get clear on the result you want. And then get clear on what the thoughts are that aren’t yielding you that result. 

Resources

• My Heartbreak Story: https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/podcast/2019/4/1/my-heartbreak-story

• Stacey Boehman: https://staceyboehman.com/

• Brooke Castillo podcast, The Lifecoach School: https://thelifecoachschool.com/podcasts/

• Brooke Castillo, Self Coaching 101: https://www.amazon.com/Self-Coaching-101-Brooke-Castillo/dp/0977853993

•  When the Work Isn’t Working: https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/podcast/2020/7/26/when-the-work-isnt-working

• Jenn Sincero, You Are a Badass at Making Money: https://www.amazon.com/You-Are-Badass-at-Making-Money-audiobook/dp/B01MQSSGFT/

• Poosh article, Heartbreak - Not Because of Him - BECAUSE OF ME: https://poosh.com/heartbreak-not-because-of-him-because-of-me/

• Heartbreak in Your Ideal Relationship: https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/podcast/2020/6/14/heartbreak-in-your-ideal-relationship

• Byron Katie, Loving What Is: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0082PQ3G0

• Abraham-Hicks: https://www.abraham-hicks.com/

PLEASE NOTE: Claire refers to her exes and the listener’s ex as a “he,” based on her own personal experience as a heterosexual female, but this work can be applied to ANYONE going through heartbreak. ALL genders and sexual orientations are encouraged to listen and apply Claire’s tools into their own lives!

Editing and show notes by Roth Media