Even if he treated you like a piece of garbage, it's totally human to be in his business when it SEEMS like he's happy and has moved on with someone else
This episode is geared towards those who are still LONGING for their ex, who happens to have moved on with someone else.
For those of you who are feeling bummed DESPITE no longer desiring to be with that person, Claire offers that it's ALSO totally human to feel that way, but you get to manage your mind around it and move on. Make it MATH, NOT DRAMA. You KNOW you no longer want to be wtih that person, so if he/she has moved on, manage your thoughts towards wishing them well. If they found a better fit for them, who's to say you can't find a better fit for YOU?
But this episode is really geared towards those who are STILL longing for their ex, despite knowing he/she's not the right person, so it's EXTRA hurtful when they've moved on.
Totally understandable to feel this pain because of the close, intimate, history but remember, regardless of who he/she is with the next partner, it wasn't working with the two of you.
Even in the off-chance that he's all of a sudden some reformed version of the partner you desired him to be, YOU saw that he wasn't that for you.
And at the end of the day, even if IS giving this new partner goods, after what you saw, would you really want to be with someone who treated you in a way that wasn't good enough for you?
What is the meaning that you're making out of someone moving on before you?
Are you deciding it isn't fair? Or you're making it mean that you're less than? Notice the story you're telling.
How do you want to shift the story?
What if him being wtih someone else was TOTALLY neutral and you get to DECIDE to think something much more empowering vs DISEMPOWERING?
Like the fact that if you DO this work you will 100% be grateful that you were NOT that woman he moved on with. Trust the bigger picture and look for how it's serving you vs. hurting you.
Brooke Castillo's Thought Model. Learn more in her book, Self Coaching 101
Claire references her last episode with Jamie McKeowen, WHY IS IT SO HARD TO FIND HIM Instead of worrying about who your ex is now with, starting thinking, feeling and behaving as the future version of you in your desirable relationshup.