For this life coach, taking time to reflect on my birthday and New Year's Day every year is kinda like dressing up on Halloween for this actress.
I reflect and dress up all the time, (exhibit A in this fabulous tutu on my 7th birthday) so I don't usually consider January 1st, February 12th, or October 31st, golden opportunities to take advantage of tapping into a deeper or more creative side of myself...
In fact, last year I didn't even post about turning 36 until two weeks after, because I wasn't feeling SO FAB about where I was at, despite having a TON to be grateful for.
I was fully aware I was emotionally eating and drinking to numb out on lots of dissatisfaction in my life:
- I was single and thought I was ready for a solid relationship.
- I was frustrated with where I was at in my coaching business, despite knowing I was good at my job, but thought I "needed" more clients after only coaching for less than a year.
- And SHOCKER, as science has repeatedly proven, I was starting to not feel so hot on the inside and out, due to all the emotional eating and drinking.
It was a perpetual cycle my mind and body were sick of, and the SHAME I felt because I was promoting myself as a life coach who ummmm was pretty dissatisfied with her own life, kept me quiet about it for a little while...
Thankfully, I eventually did take a page from my own coaching book and said: "ENOUGH IS ENOUGH."
I began working with my amazing friend and health coach, Jamie Mckeowen, (@wholelifejems on instagram!) and we got super clear about my health goals, as well as what my WHY was for wanting to feel strong and in control of what I was putting into my body, which would in turn inspire strength and control in other areas of dissatisfaction in my life.
I'm a FIRM believer that our external worlds are a direct reflection of our internal worlds-- the food and substances we put into our bodies not only affect our energy levels and physical health, but HUGELY effect our MENTAL health. (as do our THOUGHTS of course, which I'll get into in a few!)
Working with Jamie as well as embarking on the Arbonne 30 Days to Healthy Living plan, opened up SO much for me.
- I doubled my client list. (went from one client to TWO--kidding!)
- Lost 8lbs
- My energy levels went up significantly, while my anxiety levels went down
- I embarked on a pretty intense though short-lived relationship, which taught me an F-TON about myself and MOST IMPORTANTLY, inspired a new niche for my coaching business...
- Claire Your Mind- Coaching for Heartbreak and Healing, and for the first time, shared my most vulnerable and painful story that ultimately led me to become a life coach almost two years ago.
This reinvention in mid-September continued to inspire even MORE MAGIC. Acting decided he wasn't done with me yet, and I ventured off for a rendezvous with him in Alabama to shoot a film.
I also joined THE LIFE COACH SCHOOL--an incredible program that not only took the work I do on myself to a whole 'nother level, but my coaching skills as well, which definitely has contributed to a significant growth in the number of clients I have today!
And might I also add that I'm currently very much enjoying my dating journey right now??
SO HERE'S WHY I FEEL SO INCLINED TO REFLECT WITH YOU LOVES ON A REGULAR OLE CLAIRE YOUR MIND MONDAY THAT JUST SO HAPPENS TO ALSO BE MY BIRTHDAY:
THE REALITY IS, that even though a lot of wonderful stuff has happened in the last year, I'm STILL single, STILL would like even more clients, and have GAINED about 5 lbs BACK!
But the DIFFERENCE is...
I FEEL PRETTY FECKIN' SATISFIED AND HAPPY RIGHT NOW!
Sure, I've just mentioned there's been a lot of growth and excitement that's transpired over the last year, but my BRAIN naturally looks for things to WORRY about and want MORE OF, instead of enjoying and appreciating what I've accomplished in the PAST, as well as enjoying and appreciating the PRESENT journey towards where I want to go NEXT.
CAN ANYONE RELATE?!
And the reason I FEEL so much better one year later is that I've made a concerted effort in the last few months to consciously choose BETTER-FEELING THOUGHTS on a DAILY BASIS.
I take about 15 mins a day--way less time than it takes to bring my body to the gym-- and download all the thoughts in my brain--both positive and negative-- on paper.
I then evaluate which are the ones I WANT to rework.
Some of them I legitimately am FINE with feeling pissed off about!
Ask my soul sister Heather about the over-the-top pissed off reaction I had to an entitled Brentwood lady physically STANDING in a parking spot while I legit did four circles around the bustling hood on a Saturday, with zero success of finding a spot for myself.
I actually ENJOYED being ANNOYED and had no problem letting the woman know it was an obnoxious move. YEP! (you can take the gurl outta New Yawk...)
But the thoughts that are easy for me to create a big negative story about my business, my body, and my love-life on a daily basis, are BEASTS I REFUSE TO FEED ANYMORE.
I GET TO DECIDE HOW I WANT TO THINK AND FEEL ABOUT EVERY ASPECT OF MYSELF and WHERE I'M AT IN MY LIFE.
**No man, amount of clients, or number on the scale can dictate my happiness or worth**
The thought tools I use invite me to shift my perspective so that I get to live a more conscious and deliberate story that's much more pleasing than the depressing one I've automatically played out for way too long.
This is by NO MEANS a smooth approach that I've perfected-- hence why I make it a DAILY practice, like going to the gym to continue to strengthen and challenge my body--as external factors and triggering circumstances will inevitably pop up.
But I KNOW these thought tools work because of how much better I FEEL about my life overall, versus how I felt exactly one year ago today.
It's always a choice, my loves. And I get that sometimes it FEELS easier to choose the negative thoughts that dictate our sad stories because it's what we're USED to indulging.
But how about you jump on the 2018 bandwagon right here, right NOW (if you haven't already) and decide in this moment that the negative story of your past will NOT dictate your present or your future?!?
YOU'RE GOING TO FEEL UNCOMFORTABLE EITHER WAY, RIGHT? It's uncomfortable indulging the sad story, but also uncomfortable taking the time to rewire your brain to think differently.
YET, YOU KNOW ONE OPTION WILL ULTIMATELY YIELD BETTER RESULTS!!!
Or maybe you don't know, so I'm asking you to take my WORD that rewriting your story will ABSOLUTELY rewrite your present life for the better.
MAGIC will unfold in ways that you and I won't know, until you legit show up and rewrite what was and what IS.
DO IT FOR ME FOR MY BIRTHDAYYYYYYY!!!!!! Subscribe now and let's jump-start with your FIRST FREE SESSION.
Happy Claire Your Mind Monday. (and 37th birthday to ME!)